A happy married couple watching their wedding video on a sofa at home

Most couples start with two questions.

1.) Do I really need a wedding video?

And you may be answering it like this:

  • Can I even afford it—I’m already getting photos, with that extra money in my budget, shouldn’t I just skip it and put it toward our honeymoon instead?
  • I don’t watch the videos I take on my own phone—will I really watch this more than once?
  • I’m not sure I see the value of getting a video—at least I can decorate my house with our wedding photos.

2) Do I really want a wedding video?

And maybe you start thinking:


Making the decision to have a small wedding is no small feat.

I, for one, admire your choice.

There are so many cool reasons to consider a small wedding.

You can coordinate a crazy dreamy location like Iceland, Tuscany or something with more familial significance to you and yours for those closest to you (like Cape Cod). You can choose to have more parties with a more manageable number of guests. So 👏 many 👏 reasons.👏

And you might think that there’s significantly less drama.

Unfortunately, a small wedding isn’t entirely drama-free.

Amazingly enough, you still have to deal with the aftermath.

When you decide to have a small wedding, you’ve decided to cut a lot of people out.

Whether that looks like an extended family of 300 that were cut from the list, one side of the family being represented more than the other, or just that one special someone in your life that will never forget that they weren’t on your list (and will also never let you forget that).

The drama is still there and it still has to be dealt with.

And if you’re someone who hates to deal with conflict this is a living nightmare that will have you breaking out in hives.


Not getting a wedding film is the single biggest regret I hear from newlyweds.

(I’m sure you’ve heard that, too.)

Immediately after their day is over, most couples wish they had their wedding day on video because they don’t remember any of it.

Your wedding is going to be one of the most intense parties you’ll ever throw and you’ll have so much adrenaline pumping from all the fun you’re having there’s no conceivable way you can remember it all.


Cutting professional video from your wedding budget is one of the most common ways to save money on a wedding.

A lot of people consider cutting wedding video when it comes to freeing up some money in the budget. But we find that’s because wedding videography isn’t being budgeted for when photography is. (But it’s so important, that’s when you should be setting up your wedding video budget.)

What better way to save some money than to have a friend film your wedding? They’re good with a camera… they volunteered… seems like it’s a no-brainer.

Having a friend film your wedding sounds like a great budget move at first.

Almost everyone has access to fairly good quality video right in their pockets and you start to consider how you can save some big bucks, either paying off something (like your car) or doing something fun (like upgrading your honeymoon).

But before you decide to have a friend film your wedding consider all the outcomes.

Because this video might not cost you any money, but it might end up costing you your friendship. (Yikes.)

Think about all the things that can go right but also think of all the things that can go wrong and what will happen after they go wrong. Say you did everything right. You picked the single friend who is going to be responsible for filming… and they forgot to hit record on your vows. Or the battery ran out and they didn’t have extras. How upset are you going to be when that happens?

And this does happen. Go into any wedding forum under the wedding videography section and you’ll find brides who were furious that their friend let them down.

But generally, there’s a reason for this. It happens time and time again.